And as will be discussed later, pain is not really pain anymore in an S&M game it becomes overwhelmingly intense stimulation, which when administered by a skilled top can bring a bottom to entirely new heights of ecstasy. It can be a powerful thing to submit to someone else who wants to hurt you it’s a fantastic gesture of trust. Whips, canes, nipple clamps, all the wonderful things that are designed to cause, in greater or lesser degree, pain. Then there’s the sort of game described by S&M–“sadism and masochism”. Some people enjoy playing with punishment–“You’ve been bad and now I have to tie you up and spank you!” That’s bondage & discipline for you. This is a bondage & dominance sort of game. Another possibility is the top ties the bottom up in some manner, which directly and physically puts the bottom at the top’s mercy, and then the top plays with the bottom, teasing, seducing, frustrating, and hopefully finally satisfying. What do tops and bottoms do with each other? Well, one good possibility is they have lots of hot sex.

This is also where the terms “top” and “bottom” come in the top is, roughly, the dominant the bottom is, roughly, the submissive. D&S is an erotic power game, where both people are getting off–one on the thrill of controlling, the other on the thrill of being controlled. Slave/master, harem girl/sultan, boy/daddy, student/schoolmistress. Use my body for your pleasure.” This is D&S one person is dominating, the other submitting. It can be a very hot thing for someone to say to you, “I’m yours. Some people enjoy submitting to another person, placing themselves under the power of another, in a sexual context. One of the recurrent threads on s.s.b-b is the question of “what to call ourselves”, since there is no one set of sexual practices we all enjoy or are interested in, yet there is a lot in common among all the things we talk about. People who read s.s.b-b are generally interested in ways to have sex that are outside the mainstream. The easy part first: B&D = “bondage & dominance” or “bondage & discipline.” S&M = “sadism & masochism.” D&S = “dominance & submission.”

What is s & m mean